“I can’t do this.”
“I’ve never done this before.”
“Why does it matter. I’ll fail anyways.”
How many times have you or someone else you know say this? Personally, I’ve said this many times throughout my life. It’s always been so challenging because I’ve passed up on good opportunities due to the lack of self-belief. But why do we think this way?
Growing up, I’ve had to be my own champion. I had to pump myself up before big events, whether it was interviewing for a new job or competing in a grappling tournament. Rarely did I have something nearby to help say, “You can do this. Believe in yourself.” Rather, the opposite and would go something to the effect of, “You could get hurt! Why bother? It’s a waste of time!” I recall those moments, and yes, at times they would be glued to me.
Now much older, I believe more than ever we need to be our own champions in life. We need to tell ourselves that it’s possible, that we have the ability to mold our circumstances, that we have to be intrinsically motivated. We need to fight for what we want.
I remember the first time I stepped into the cage for my MMA debut. It was easily the most nerving and surreal moment of my life. I mean, I was about to step into a cage, in front of 100’s of strangers, with another man who wants to break me. I was ready to face the very real possibility that I could have my arm snapped off or be knocked unconscious.
But I also believed in myself I was ready. And why?
I had spent a near 2 month training camp, sparring week in and week out with the best training partners and having the best coaches around. I knew I prepared the best I could; I was training twice a day, 6 days a week for my fight. I knew in my heart that regardless of the outcome, I put in the hard work and dedication. I believed in myself.
And thankfully, the result was positive.
With all that said, believe in yourself. Believe in you when no one will. We’re our own worst enemies, and more importantly, our own strongest advocates. It’s amazing what humans can achieve when we believe in ourselves. Just remember, time moves by fast and days become months, months become years. Whatever is on our mind that we want to achieve, take the first step.
It could be the best step of your life!